Depression the way out
8th march is WOMEN’S day.
I personally don’t believe in women’s day.However , market forces decide such celebrations
.Life is a festival if one celebrates everyday,every moment.
As my mothers are growing older, so are their children,I encounter a lot of women with depression.
Not an easy diagnosis!. They seem to be moving along the corridors of their lives as usual. A keen eye,a subtle change,a sympathetic ear will not miss it. But most are missed by their children and,partners.
They present to us in various ways.
Most common presentation is weight gain!!
Homemakers are the worst victims. They spend better half of their life ,just like caregivers, tending to each and every need of the children,husband,inlaws etc,so much so that they lose their individuality.
One fine day the children have grown up and don’t need her hand holding,
The husband is busy at work and the homemaker is left with loads of time at hand.
This is the time she feels lonely, unloved,and as if useless in the lives of those who she thought were her life.
In the rush to look after everyone’s needs she forgot to cultivate friends.
she forgot to look after her health .
she forgot about her hobbies .
ALL IS LOST????
IT IS NEVER TOO LATE .
To my gorgeous mothers I have this to say
YOUR PRESENCE WILL ONLY BE NOTICED BY YOUR ABSENCE
Homemakers, everyone takes you for granted . Sometimes you wonder if you are even being noticed or you are just a part of the furniture at home?
Before this happens start being “unavailable “ for a few hours on a daily basis.
For those hours be completely with yourself,don’t even answer the phone unless it is an emergency.
Make a plan for yourself.
Every individual must devote at least 60 minutes to oneself everyday.
It may be just strolling in the garden or reading a book or listening to music or yoga.
Just do something for yourself and as more time becomes available increase the time you devote to yourself.
YOUR SANITY IS MOST IMPORTANT FOR SANITY OF YOUR FAMILY
Just these simple steps go a long way in increasing your self esteem and worth.
I have never failed with this formula.
Set a goal ,say learning to paint or just learning to sing or simply walking 6 km daily.
Work towards achieving your goal daily and you will be surprised how much joy this gives you.
How you look forward to doing that activity and how you have no time to feel sorry for yourself.
Mothers if you had the ability to give life ,you surely are strong enough to pick up yourself and make a fantastic life for yourself.
GO ! ENJOY GUILT FREE!
IT IS NOT A Crime TO BE HAPPY
Do write back if any of you identify with the above.
LIVE LIFE QUEEN SIZE
How to gain less for mom and more for baby
Why so much data on diet and no clarity on what is good for a pregnant lady? Why so much confusion?
No one should tell you exactly how much of each item you need to eat.
we should allow our common sense to prevail. Spoon-fed-up is a new term I would like to coin for all those who are frustrated by the diet plans carved in great details by the dietitians with very little wiggle room.
Come on folks let’s give some credit to our grey cells and not take instructions for simple things like what to eat!!!!
Indian food from all regional cuisines are very well balanced. If we were to eat what a common man of the region eats we would all be healthy.
The problem today is :
We live in Mumbai and we want to eat food from NY or LA or Italy!
Why do you think every locality grows different food, different grains?
why North India grows wheat and south grows rice?
that is because environmental conditions in each region are different.
Animals in that region are also in accordance with the environment.
But humans live local and eat global? How can that be correct?
All foods traditionally prepared are also according to seasons
In winters – Moong Dal Halwa
In rainy season- Pakoras
In summers- Aam Panna
Why don’t we have aam panna in winters?
Bajra(millet) is traditionally had in winters.
If one can follow simple rule -EAT FRESH
DRINK PLENTY OF FLUIDS
WORK OUT FOR 20 minutes
if you notice most stomach related problems ( if not all) are related to food. By making small changes in food intake they can be cured.
Let us deal with indigestion
1) Identify the food that repeatedly causes indigestion, say some milk or milk products- then avoid it esp if you are lactose intolerant.
2) Fried and spicy food can upset your digestion
3) Difficult to digest food e.g some meats
4) Overeating can also be the cause ,hence have smaller meals.
5) You can’t go wrong with increasing veggies in your meals
6) Decrease the grains on your plate ( don’t make it zero)
7) Increase the proteins on your plate and keep rotating the proteins. Same protein every da is not enough .This is because each protein has adifferent set of amino acids . Your body needs all the essentials amino acids.
So have a different protein in each meal.
Milk and eggs in breakfast ( chick pea flour pancake for vegetarians)
Dal and sprouts in lunch.
Chicken and something curds in lunch.
Roasted chana in evening snacks.
Milk twice a day
Another advantage of protein is that the gastric emptying time is longer so you feel fuller for a longer time.
Carbs on the other hand have a shorter gastric emptying time and also cause water retention.
This site is not meant to give you a complete knowledge about diet in pregnancy. It will act like a shepherd only,like a guiding star giving your correct directions.
Most info is found on internet but how to interpret that info no one tells us. This task I have taken up and even if I can touch a few hundred lives I will have done my job
More specific tips in my next post.