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HomeMakers

HomeMakers

Dr. Rekha Agrawal

August 4, 2019

Most women are propelled by family members, advertisers and co-workers to believe that they are superwomen.
It is easy to be carried away. It is easy to feel that gush of pride and go beyond your capabilities
I know so many women who are cooks in the morning,cleaners,software engineers working from home ,babysitters by day,and glamorous spouses by evening.
I am sure most of my readers identify with this image.
Most men on the other hand are full time office goers and part time husbands.
This is not to demean men by any chance! They are smart and they know their limitations and hence are not trying to juggle many hats. But women do take on many hats and much to their dismay are left juggling and stressed and miserable.
The worst hit is THE HOMEMAKER.

In course of daily practice as an obstetrician and gynaecologist I come across so many women. When asked what do you do in life they say and I quote “ I am ONLY a housewife or I am only a homemaker “
I take strong exception to this.
I think the homemaker has it the toughest!
Every other member of the family has some defined role but homemaker has NO definitive role,as a result everyone dumps their work on the homemaker.
If a homemaker were to sit and evaluate her day she will definitely think she has been busy all day and not achieved anything substantial!!!And why is she feeling so tired??? Because she dropped kids to school after packing their food,ran with a glass of milk after them, combed their hair and reminded them to take their journals. Then she came home dealt with the househelps and the parents-in-law,got groceries,packed tiffin for husband and other office goers in the house,then after quickly going through her bath , pooja arranged breakfast for the members at home, instructed the cook the plan for lunch…………………and it goes on and on.
A homemaker NEVER FINISHES HER TO DO LIST.
Partly the women are responsible as they have given priority to all others above their own.They have always felt that since I am not able to bring any money let me be of use around the house . In this guilt trip she tries to do all she can and much more,selflessly and sometimes at the cost of self.
The final result is
  1. You are taken for granted
  2. No one understands what you are sacrificing to be available 24/7
  3. There is no value in terms of money put to your services
  4. When you are down the whole system collapses

So how to go about it with love and still remain important in the lives that we touch?

Key points to remember are
1. Delegate what you can, say buying brown paper to cover books, let the child buy it on his way home
2.Remain absent or unavailable for a fixed period everyday.say you are not going to be reachable between 2-4 pm daily as you are going for a kitty party or yoga or music classes. Being unavailable makes others realise your importance.
3. Have one thing outside of home to look forward to daily.it may be as simple as going for a walk in the evening with your friend or your music
4. Remain away from home for a few days, go away to your sister’shouse parents place once in awhile let the husband handle things for a few days. Respect for you in his eyes will increase tremendously.
5. Try to decrease what you, do every six months,Review what others can do and allow them to do it by not doing it for them.
6. Give importance to your self and once in awhile pamper yourself
7. ABOVE ALL BE REAL AND LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
FUN FACT: Homemakers are the only people who are unpaid , highly sincere and honest workers with no contracts

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Why so much data on diet and no clarity
why so much confusion?

img_6101Because if there is no confusion there will be no market for food products, advisors and the whole gamut
this article is not meant to give you complete knowledge about food .it will act like a shepherd only and ,like a guiding star only giving you correct directions.
indian food and indian regional diets are very well balanced and good for healthimg_4146
Take for example food of north
rajma .rice
roti /dal /vegetables/dahi
fish and rice
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fish,rice,coconut
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rice,nachani,coconut,fish,peanut

all of the above if you analyze have a carbohydrate(rice or wheat)
a protein (dal .rajma,dahi, peanut.uadi dal in idli)
a source of fat(coconut,peanut,ghee)

Then what or where is the problem
The problem is
we live in Mumbai and eat what people are meant to eat in NY or Italy or LA
why do you think mother earth grows different things in different locations.
like wheat grows in the north and rice in south
all foods traditionally are prepared according to seasons
like in winters moong dal halwa and
in rainy season pakoda
in summer aam panna
why do we not have aam panna in winter?
why do you think basra roti is eaten in winter not summer?

If anyone follows simple rules 90% of the times one can’t go wrong

EAT FRESH
EAT LOCAL
EAT SMALL QUANTITY
DRINK PLENTY OF FLUIDS
WORK OUT FOR 20 MINUTES DAILY

Increase the quantity of vegetables(greens)on your plate
Decrease the grains (don’t make it zero)

Increase the proteins(and keep rotating the proteins to get all amino ac ids needed by your body

so have a different protein in every meal
say – milk and eggs in breakfast
-or pancakes made from chick pea flour
lunch- dal and sprouts with curds
snacks- roasted chana,dry fruits,milk

dinner-soya,curds,
milk at bed time
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This task i have taken up and even if i can make a difference in 100 pregnant lives i would have done my

SOME  IMPORTANT  FOODS IN PREGNANCY 

(for women with no medical complications)
dates-2 dates twice in a day
dry fruits-a fist full in a day of walnut,badam,figs
ghee-routine use ,no increase needed in pregnancy.but don’t avoid ghee as it is needed for satiety and it keeps you are feeling full for a longer time.also via D & vit A are in ghee
fresh fruits- plenty,avoid juices ,have whole fruits,have variety of fruits at least 2 to 3 diff fruits daily
coconut water-good and soothing
lemon-1 a day in food ,salads , helps absorb iron and has vit C
green veg-plenty,keeps constipation at bay
sesame seeds-good source of calcium,add to your pancakes,mouthfreshner mix

great advantage of proteins is they take a longer time to digest as a result your stomach empties slowly and you feel hungry less often.
besides carbohydrates cause water retention and more energy to digest hence you feel more tired after a CHO rich meal.

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